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Do You LOVE Your Grand Kids Really?

Posted on January 21, 2014 by in Sweet Tea And Common Sense

Did you vote for the best people to make your town, your county and your country a GOOD place for them to live in? Are you setting a GOOD example for them to follow in your footsteps? Can they count on you to help them become the very BEST person they can possibly be?

I ask because less than 60 people showed up to hear the candidates speak before the election in the City of Santa Fe… and 8 of them were candidates! For a city of 12,000, that doesn’t make it seem like a lot of loving grandparents live here. I thought grandparents, or at least people who were old enough to be grandparents, were the largest group of registered voters?

Do you REALLY love your grand kids or do you just love to show them off?

Anybody can do that. Aunts, uncles, and even some parents love to brag about how much they love the kids, but then they don’t take care of them. Really loving anyone always costs us something… time, effort, money, etc. Most of us love to spend money on children, but love is not money. See the rest of this story on page 3 as well as more GOOD NEWS by clicking the link below.

http://santafegoodnews.com/issues/May2013.pdf

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You Have to Love Them, Because God Said So

Posted on October 25, 2013 by in Sweet Tea And Common Sense

 

You have heard it said you are as close to God as you want to be – you are as close to your family as you want to be too.

You cannot make people love God nor can you make them love their family. When society decided to change in the 1960’s from a strict Victorian type lifestyle into a free living/loving anything goes type lifestyle – family was no longer a requirement. Remaining in any long term relationship requires a lot of effort, determination and discipline – maintaining a close family is no different.

In a society hell bent on choosing to focus on themselves rather than the greater good, we cannot help but lose our families while we are trying to pursue our GOOD LIFE. America was built by families who wanted a better life for their children. They didn’t come to America to survive, they came to thrive and live the dream. You cannot make people realize they need God any more than you can make them realize how important having family is. Like the song says – you don’t know what you have sometimes until it’s gone.

Read the rest of the story at www.santafegoodnews.com/Issues/SouthernComfortIssue.pdf on page 21.

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The Unbelievable Audacity of Some People!

Posted on August 26, 2013 by in Sweet Tea And Common Sense

If you are a Pastor, a Judge or a Public Speaker of any sort… please listen up.

I attended a funeral today & it was awful. Awful yes that the person died so young, but more awful than that was the minister handling the service. He made it all about himself rather than the dearly departed. How disrespectful to use a memorial service to promote yourself and your church. I didn’t come to hear about the person speaking. I came to hear about the person we’ve lost. I came for closure, to  grieve and to pay my respects to my friend. I don’t know or care about the speaker. He is merely supposed to be a vehicle to lead us along the path. I don’t want to know about his childhood, his life or his opinions. And I sure don’t care about anything he has to say after he admits he has never even met my friend. The only grieving we were allowed to do happened during the music portions of the service and at the end when we hugged the family. This inconsiderate pastor spent the entire time talking about himself. He didn’t even talk very much about God, because he was so busy telling the stories of his life.

I see this happening more and more these days and it stinks. People are asked to emcee events or to speak at functions and they take the microphone and use it for their own gain rather than what the organization had in mind. I have even seen weddings being used as an opportunity for pastors to talk about themselves. It’s disgusting and in the poorest of taste.

People pay for or ask for a favor from someone and invite their friends to something and the person uses the opportunity as chance to talk to a new audience about themselves. I even attended a conference recently put on by a very well-known minister, only to have one of the sessions consist of being forced to sit and listen her husband speak. It was awful. Her husband has no gift for public speaking and I paid good money to hear her, not him.

Don’t people understand they shoot themselves in the foot doing this? (Click here to see the rest of the article on page 3 in the magazine.) www.santafegoodnews.com/issues/farmissue.pdf

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Stand Up AMERICA

Posted on July 17, 2012 by in Home & Hearth, Sweet Tea And Common Sense

Taken from Sweet Tea & Common Sense July 2012 Issue

by Lynn Trahan

Unity is the Answer… A House Divided Falls

Hate and anger will not solve our problems in America. Pitting one political party against another will further divide us. We stood together arm in arm after December 7th & September 11th and we had peace among us. The only solution to the problems we face is that we face them together under one almighty leader, God. There is strength in unity and weakness in division. We must decide whom we will serve, ourselves, money or our God, by whatever name we call Him. To have our focus return to something or someone larger than ourselves is our best bet for unity, peace and prosperity. While we argue over all of our differences, we erode our nation and give it into the hands of the wicked. Yes I said wicked. If you are not accountable to God, you are easily accessible to be used for wickedness. You’ve got to stand for something and decide whom you will serve.

The Grand Old Party is not so grand anymore and I’m not saying that because I’m a democrat, I’m saying that because they can’t find a representative that’s worth representing me. Each party is presenting people that are not worthy of our votes, but we are and have been for years voting merely for the lessor of the 2 evils. That’s not grand, that’s not even close to grand.

The Democratic Party is no better and I’m not saying that because my husband is a republican, I’m saying that because they have the same problem. They are supposed to be liberal and progressive, but they have allowed themselves to become so progressive that they have just driven their party into hell. I don’t believe that just because the squeaky wheel has money behind it, that it should be allowed to run amuck.

Mainstream America is not a bunch of lunatics. They are the backbone of our country and they deserve to be heard and represented by reasonable moderate parties who are not being paid by anyone but the American people to govern as their conscience dictates. If that means voting across party lines to get the best person, then I guess what we need to throw to the curb is party loyalty. Loyalty is a good thing, until its corrupted. If everyone in this country would do their civic duty and vote and they voted their conscience, we would have the right people in office, because our true leader would see to it. Unity in voting is power, individual power, not corrupt political power.

Anyone or any party who attempts to get your vote by using anger, hate or lies should not get your vote. The Good Book says you will know them by their fruit and creating a platform built on hate is bad fruit and it won’t suddenly turn sweet when they take office.

We need a firm hand to get this country back on its feet, but we don’t need an evil one to represent us. We are not evil and our representative needs to be one of us. We are the majority and the majority of us are good people. So I ask you to take a look at who your party is putting in the pool for you to choose from and who the other party is putting in and make a choice based on what you feel is right in your heart. There is no one man or one party or one religion that has all the right answers to help us get to where we need to be. It’s up to each one of us to do our part and as the saying goes “Let God sort them out.”

 

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Sweet Tea & Common Sense: In Search of Civil Behavior

Posted on September 11, 2011 by in Sweet Tea And Common Sense

Letter to the Editor:

There is something missing in our society. People just don’t seem to care like they used to about things that are important to their community or our nation. I often wonder if some even care about themselves. We are in times when blame is being poured out on anyone whose thoughts or actions are different from our perceived goodness. With the coming of the political season I fear that things may get worse. We may find it all too easy to gather our fears, prejudices and selfishness and cast them all upon a political party, or to place our hopes and aspirations upon a party or a person. Having done that, we will be tempted to show a strong degree of dislike or contempt toward those who have differing views. This seems to be encouraged by the communications media that chooses to provide news that entertains rather than informs and programs that encourage hatred and distrust toward those who may be different. These rabble rousers can easily lead one to thinking that what they are saying is true or why else would “they” say such things? The primary reason is that they make big money and the more hate they can foster, the larger the audience and the higher their salary. Letter to the Editor Opinions always have more than one side. There is not an easy answer to our personal, community, or national problems. No one system or political party can lay claim to being able to conduct a perfect government, but no single system can govern without respect for the rights of those who differ. Democracy is not the establishment of a government that meets the needs of a select group. Our nation was not founded on the principal that the elite should govern. We believe that all people are created equal. To me this includes those of different races, levels of education, religious beliefs, countries of origin, political beliefs or other situations that may cause them to be different from me. Respect for their rights is not the same as acceptance. I know that my refusal to accept their rights may give them the privilege to deny me my freedom. When we have the type of government that makes one group’s concept of behavior the preferred pattern without respect for the rights of others, we have civil disobedience and anarchy. My understanding of Christianity is that Jesus summed it up by saying that we fulfill God’s expectations when we practice love for God and for others. Lest we misunderstand who is our neighbor Jesus explained that our neighbor is anyone we come in contact with who has a need. We show ourselves to be a neighbor when we take time to minister to that need. It is of interest to me that he chose a non-believing foreigner to illustrate his point. It has helped me to remember that my family came to this country as immigrants, and that I am not that for from struggling to meet my daily needs, and that I have to change my opinions on some important thoughts from time to time. I have gained by listening to others who have different views from my own. That gain has been in respect for their struggles, hopes, and views. I often don’t agree, but I try to be civil. Treat others as you desire to be treated. Democracy is founded on the principal of respect for the law and the right for others to have views that may be in conflict with my facts. Our nation is not a nation of hate and discord. We are a nation of diverse people each of whom is due honor and respect. You may not agree with me, but I sure hope that you don’t hate me. This letter to the editor is meant to reflect my views. It would be nice if you agreed with me, but I will not be angry if you differ. That is what democracy is about. Thanks for listening. Paul Walker Tulsa, Oklahoma

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Sweet Tea & Common Sense: Hunger is Unacceptable!

Posted on August 11, 2011 by in Sweet Tea And Common Sense

Stop It… You’re Scaring the Old People!

The people in the photograph above are not really hungry, they are volunteers at H.I.S. Ministries, who agreed to help bring attention to local hunger. Had we just run the photo in an ad for the Ministry and left it at that, you would think they were hungry. Media, just like anything else can be used for good or evil. Are there people in Galveston county who are hungry? Of course there are, but not every one is. The point is to stir people up (provoke) people into doing something, helping with hunger, voting, etc. Media can take it too far though. We’ve seen plenty of proof over the years that things are sometimes slanted to appear worse or better than they actually are. Media has to be taken with a grain of salt, just like anything else. I don’t care if you’re telling the truth or not, it’s cruel when you deliberately scare people.

Both Democratic & Republican party advertisers, writers & pundits are using shameful scare tactics to try to make their point more horrific than their opponent’s points. The harm: causing the older generation to eat less, spend less and enjoy less of what few years they have left. Do you know how many people didn’t buy their normal groceries last month, because they were afraid their checks might not come? See just one example below. Dear Mr. President, I heard you say you will not guarantee SS checks if the debt ceiling isn’t raised. Why is it the scare always has to do with SS, Medicare, & our Soldiers pay? Why not stop your own pay or all of Congress to save much more money for our country? Why use the Seniors, Soldiers, & our Needy as examples? Take the money from those who take no risks and reap the benefits? Instead of threatening to withhold Social Security payments of people who really need the money….Lets hold the paycheck’s of all house & senate members, then see how fast it is resolved!!!!!

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Help in Your Time of Need: Advice Column

Posted on July 11, 2011 by in Sweet Tea And Common Sense

Fighting Constantly? Money, Sex, Responsibilities, Work, Children…

The list is endless. I am just so tired. I am tired of dealing with him and his drama. I’m tired of dealing with his yelling. I am tired of him blowing everything up into WWIII all of the time. I am tired of him being so unwilling to bend, and snubbing my efforts to meet him halfway. I am discouraged, and tired, and an inch away from being unwilling to go any further. I know you are, we all get weary. It’s your job to run your household the way you want it run. Again, you can’t control him, but he can’t control you either. Do what you know in your heart is right and don’t worry about the outcome. As far as his raving: don’t tolerate it. It’s a 3 year old tantrum and you need to respectfully treat as such. Walk away with the politest explanation that you can manage and explain that when he’s ready to speak to you like an adult, you’ll be there to listen. Childish tactics don’t work when the other person won’t participate. Not tolerating it is self preservation and good for your marriage. If we are not going to figure out right now how to save this marriage, then we need to back away now, before we do each other much more damage. Let me make one obvious observation from a long term marriage participant: you didn’t say anything that anyone else hasn’t ever said. What you have described is marriage. It’s not all roses nor is it all pain and suffering, but just like children, it isn’t always pretty. Relationships and life are mixture of both, always have been, always will be. The people in them are just that, people trying to live their lives the best way they know how. Suggestions: Counseling, counseling, counseling or at least library books, sermons, friends, parents, Dr. Berman, Dr. Phil, etc. The resources are unlimited and mostly free. Priests and pastors still counsel for free to my knowledge. Now for the practical side: You have to agree to disagree and the only way you can do that is to both grow up enough not to feel attacked when someone doesn’t agree with you. You have to realize this is a long term commitment and it is going to be a roller coaster, it just is and you can wish it weren’t all you want, but the next one will be too if you quit this one. It just is what it is. It’s life. He has what you need and you have what he needs, that’s the point. That’s why it’s so hard to get along and the 2 of you are to become 1 and it ain’t easy. Marriage ain’t easy, if it was everyone would be celebrating 50 years and they aren’t! To each problem I have made suggestions, all of which were not acceptable to him. When I say that I am out of ideas, it’s because I am. I even suggested the counseling. It was shot down because he only trusts a priest. I bought a book by Dr. Phil, it’s a workbook for relationship rescue. He won’t do it, because he distrusts anyone not of his religious background. I don’t like to think that I have come to this point in my relationship easily. I like to think that I am adult enough to know that you don’t leave a marriage over petty differences. I believe I have really, strenuously tried. I believe I have done everything that I am able, put forth every idea that I have had, attempted to squelch all emotional responses in order to provide objectively reasonable behavior and feedback. If I were to walk away today, I cannot think of a single thing else that I could have done. I don’t know what else to do. I guess I am hoping that by putting the ball in his court, he may finally be forced to either come up with suggestions of his own, or yield to one of mine. If he just opts out, well, then I guess that’s an answer all on its own, isn’t it? As to the counseling: go for it. Do it his way. It will help. Pick and choose what you want from it. We all do that no matter who the counselor is anyway. But it will help. If you get nothing out of it but the satisfaction of doing something together to try to make things better, it would be worth it. And counseling is not a quick fix and it’s not for one, it’s for both of you. Or not, the point is you can’t say you tried everything, because you haven’t. It’s dirty, messy, mean and uncomfortable, that is marriage. But it’s not all that way, all the time. I believe you took your vows seriously. That said, own them. Pick yourself up and do what you believe you need to do and what you have peace about doing and let God sort it out. And to quote the Santa Fe Good News June issue: “You are facing the wrong way. Face Me, not the problem.” God

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