Shame can be a good thing if it’s used to encourage people to do right and and make a good life for themselves and their families.
You don’t have to be ashamed of yourself forever…
But we should at least acknowledge that these things are wrong. It is not someone else’s fault, it’s yours. These are all personal choices that we all make. And we need to take personal responsibility for the status of our lives.
If you post all the awful details of your life on Facebook you should be ashamed of where you are & not posting trash like it’s something to be proud of.
Some of these things you can change now, others you have to forgive yourself for and learn from. As long as we act like these things don’t matter, we are lying to ourselves and to each other.
These things are just wrong and we all need to start saying so and help people by shaming them into making choices that give them back their self respect.
You cannot help someone if you act like what they are doing is acceptable. There is a fine line between shame and judgement and we need to find it. People do not need to be kicked when they are down, but neither do we need to act like its okay. We all know it’s not and not talking about it doesn’t make it go away or build anyone’s self esteem.
And these are not the big complicated issues like obesity, homosexuality or sex outside of marriage.
These are just the basics. Surely we can get the basics right. Perhaps we lost the basics when the more complicated issues came along. The only way to get our GOOD Life back is to get our morals back, one person and one family at a time.